Yesterday my Daughter asked if she could go to the park-alone. Of course my immediate answer was no. This set her off,
‘you treat me like a baby’,
‘Why cant you cross me over the road-I will be OK’ and
‘you don’t think I’m grown up enough do you?’
No she’s not a 12 year old desperate for a bit of incandescence-she’s 9.
So,am I wrong to worry about her going to the park alone two streets away,I think I am.
She is a very ‘little’ 9 ,not just her height or the fact she has only turned 9 last week ,her mannerisms and ways make her seem a lot younger. This bothers me also as in two years she will be going to High school.
Now if my eldest Daughter (now 12) Had asked me if she could go to the park alone at 9 I would have crossed her over the road and waved her off without hesitation. They are two VERY different children, my eldest was born about aged 30 I’m convinced of it. She is very sensible,reserved and analyses everything .
My youngest on the other hand is loud,outgoing and impulsive- all great qualities also.
So my dilemma is this ,do I untie the apron strings and give her the freedom she wants. I don’t think she’s ready-I don’t think I’M ready.
and I think that’s the problem. This is the last child I will raise and I want to enjoy her being small as much as possible,and she’s starting to not need me and it hurts.I know she’s growing up and that’s great ,and she will always be my baby-they both will. But it still hurts how time passes so fast.
Back to the park , she goes with her sister and that’s fine. Her Dad said definitely no if she goes alone. To be fair I would say that to my eldest to-you just never know who is about.
So am I the worst mother in the world,smothering her and not letting her have a bit of freedom. Or are some of you reading this an nodding in agreement ?
I’d love to know because this is playing on my mind so much.